By this, I mean you should step back from your relationship and view it from an outsider’s perspective. I am aware you might feel a bond with him which should override the independence you both have.
What would you say to a friend in your position with your knowledge of the situation? However, from a guy’s perspective, the woman who pushes herself too hard on him (either physically or emotionally) begins to raise red flags that suggest she is going to be a burden rather than a great partner.
Rotten relationship habits and patterns include, but are not limited to: Someone texting too much and always expecting instant replies, not texting enough and making their Significant Other (S.
O.) feel gross and anxious on purpose, text-fighting (ugh), fighting over chat (UGH!
In my previous post, I told you what a guy means when he says he needs space. My best guess is he needs space because he feels confined, either physically or emotionally.
I also told you to step back and be objective about your relationship. He feels confined because you are looking to him for a sense of completeness, and that means you are letting go of the independence he needs you to have.
It is time for you to be the best girlfriend, lover or wife you can be. It is essential you deal with the situation calmly, clearly and honestly so you can talk about it like adults when and if the time comes that he has had enough space.
To get a handle on your feelings, you first have to give yourself permission to release them.Admiral F*cktard, you put your heart, emotions and feelings on mute. You don’t want to lose him, so you commit to playing “cool (basic/boring/not dynamic), understanding girl,” in the name of unconditional, un-boundaried “love,” and you’re miserable because you’re in complete relationsh*t-limbo-hell and your heart is breaking.But you’re cool girl right now and cool girl has to play cool until she can’t take it any longer and loses her sh*t at lunch with her BFF in a fancy restaurant.BRA | TOP | PANTS (c/o Aryn K.) | SHOES | SUNGLASSES I met one of my girlfriends for brunch this weekend at a fancy pantsy spot in Beverly Hills where if you sneeze, the whole restaurant looks over and gasps in amazement that a sneezing mortal is among them.We were having a great time catching up, but I could tell something was off. It’s almost the holidays.” After she was done explaining it all, I had to consciously close my jaw because I realized that it had dropped to the floor.